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How To Get Closure

We all hear that you need to get closure on a relationship before you can truly move on – but how do we go about getting it? There is no magic formula for closure. It’s basically anything you need to have happen in order to feel like the relationship is really over. Without closure the relationship essentially still feels like an open case of unresolved feelings and issues and we need to find a way to shut the book to move on. Here’s some ways to help get closure:

·        Wait. It’s unlikely that you’ll break up Monday, get closure Tuesday and be over it on Wednesday. Closure really comes after a certain amount of time has passed and you are able to gain some perspective on the relationship that you weren’t able to when you were in it or freshly broken up. You might see your ex in a different light, or realize something about yourself that you didn’t know. So be patient and don’t expect it to happen overnight. Breakups take time to heal, above anything.

·        Vent. Find some good friends to give you a shoulder to cry on and let it all out. Or write it in your journal. Either way, start talking to get out whatever feelings you have bottled up. You won’t be able to release your ex from your life if your feelings are still inside of you. As you vent, you might work through the relationship enough to be able to move on, or you might come to some realizations that you’re better off without them.

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